Rejection

In this deep healing series, we’re currently dealing with the causes of inner wounds, of which we covered generational curses and soul ties. Today, we’re moving to the third reason, which is rejection. 

A child should receive ‘quality love’ in its formative years (0-7yrs) during which the human soul grows. A child’s soul is the outcome of a father’s and mother’s love, right at the time of conception and therefore, a baby can receive love right from its prenatal stage. It is important that the atmosphere is saturated with love for a woman during her pregnancy period, because the baby’s senses develop while in the womb and they respond to touch and sounds.

Luke 1:41 When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the baby leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit.

A husband and wife should continue in love in order to have a baby with a healthy soul. A child’s psyche is deeply affected by what’s happening around; not all women have a pleasant pregnancy period; some parents even argue and put forward divorce petitions while the baby is developing in the mother’s womb. Little do they realise that they’re harming the baby’s psyche through such actions. 
Parents' love are of a great deal to a child and later in life they get to receive friends’ love, siblings’ love, spouse’s love, children’s love, grandchildren’s love, etc. God has created human beings with the ability to receive love right from the womb till the grave. God is love and we, being His beautiful creation, can receive love in our character throughout our life. 
However, love deficit occurs when quality love is deprived in one’s life. A majority of the problems that today’s society addresses is due to unparented children, who lack quality love and the presence of their parents. Such people wander for love and acceptance, and some among them end up being gangsters/terrorists.

Let us see 4 situations of love deficit after a child’s birth:

1.  Absence of parents - though alive, parents (either father/ mother/ both) are away making a living. God has positioned us as a parent and given authority over our children; and the love showered to a child varies with each authoritative figure (parent, grandparent, elder sibling, teacher). A grandparent’s love can never be equated to a father’s or mother’s love. Absence of parents creates a vacuum for that parental love, and their search for love will cause them to end up in love affairs, drug addictions, video games, etc. Parents’ presence and affection should never be compromised for providing and saving up for their children. Children need their parents around who’d give them all ears to listen to and their shoulders to lean and cry on; it gives them great comfort and is crucial for the healthy growth of their soul. Maybe, you're that person who went through such situations in your childhood and you still have the pain deep in your soul; but Jesus can bind and heal all your wounds and He is faithful to shower all that love on you today which you didn't receive from your parents in the past. Rejoice in the Lord always! Stop complaining about the love that you didn’t receive; instead run to Jesus for a greater measure of pure love which can fill every void within you.

Love your children because they are God’s precious gift to you; and do not let your love and approach toward them fluctuate based on their performances or proficiency. Also, never compare your child with any other child.

2. Parents with family problems - children in such homes have an insecure feeling. Children develop their God concept from their fathers - children relate the Heavenly Father to their biological father. A little child cannot comprehend much about God/ Jesus. A child’s security lies in his/her father and mother. But when a dispute occurs between this very own father and mother, the child’s soul is impaired. Family is the foundational institution of a society; healthy and happy homes will bring forth a safe and pleasant society. Many people are adamant to stay single all their life due to the fights and unpleasant atmosphere they’ve witnessed as a child between their parents.

Love deficit is the main cause for all violence that we see and read about in the present world. Join us tomorrow to contemplate further on this topic and to align ourselves with God’s Word.

About The Author:

Dr. Damien Antony
Born and brought up in a Christian family, Dr. Damien Antony possessed an unquenching quest for truth right from his boyhood days and eventually his relentless search led him to the Bible. He is a Revival Preacher, Bible Teacher, Leadership Trainer, Author and a Life Coach. He moves under the anointing for Prophetic, Healing, Deliverance, Inner Healing and Financial Breakthrough. God has also blessed him with an Apostolic Mandate to take the Universal Body of Christ to the next level of revelation and anointing.